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Vivica Menegaz

Nutritionist, Author, & Blogger

Hi I am Vivica, welcome to my blog! I am a certified nutritionist and the creator of the Healing Foods Method. My philosophy of healing is to let the right foods delight you, nourish you and make you healthy!

Open letter to you!

Today there will be no usual nutrition post.

I am taking this week to grieve.

Our daily lives go by quickly and busily, one day after the other, barely noticed, just one step in front of the other….

Until something really big happens, then life suddenly screeches to a halt.

This time for me it was a family tragedy.

My family, as many of you know, consists of my husband and the many beloved pets, as I did not have children.

But for my Italian mamma’s heart, my pets are the children.

Few days ago I lost my most dearly beloved little spunky, sassy mallard, Kiki and her two kids.

A Bear.

He killed the kids, and Kiki is missing.

I wish I could be a great writer and describe all the different feelings and range of emotions…from the deepest sadness to the strongest hope, to despair and guilt for not having been able to see this coming.

Words fail me.

Death is a big stigma in out modern times, it’s constantly hidden from us and we have lost familiarity with its inexorable, unavoidable presence.

Intellectually I can understand the concept of death, but emotionally, my body refuses to understand. It does not make sense.

I just feel like at times like this it is important to take time out from life, to fully experience your pain. I just want to sit in silence, inside the horrible void left behind by the absence of those beloved creatures.

I just wanted to share this with you, dear reader, I hope you understand.




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Comments 24

  1. Lisa says:

    I am so, so very sorry for your loss. 🙁

  2. I am terribly sorry for your loss. No words are needed to describe your grief, there’s enough in of itself.

    I pray for you, Vivica!

  3. Emma says:

    Hi Vivica,

    I am so sorry to hear such sad news, I too have lost pets in the past and know just how much it can hurt. Hopefully time will help you heal and you will be able to enjoy all the happy memories. Sending you condolences and big hugs .
    Emma xx

    • The Nourished Caveman says:

      Thank you for your kind words Emma, they are appreciated!

  4. Leslie says:

    Dear Vivica,
    I join with the other readers to say how sorry I am for your loss.
    Having lost pets in the past, I know that pain as well. You are right to just take time to process and heal.
    Praying for you.

    • The Nourished Caveman says:

      Thank you so much Leslie, your kindness is very much appreciated!

  5. Marna says:

    Animals are our family if we let them be that. I’m so sorry. Bless them.

  6. Jordi Sheard says:

    Oh no! My heart is aching for you. I have children and yet the loss of my dear Burmese was no less acute. Fur babies are a massive part of our lives and I am truly sorry for your loss.

    • The Nourished Caveman says:

      Thank you Jordi.
      I love Burmese cats and as a kid I always wish I could have one,but they are too expensive in Italy. I did get to have two siamese though, and they stayed with us for many years!

  7. Susan says:

    Our pets are part of the family and as such are much loved. It is so difficult to lose someone you love. Blessings on you and your family.

  8. Nanci says:

    Oh Vivica,

    I am so sorry. I have lost pets before (they are like children) and I have more recently lost a brother. Death is so hard. My heart aches for you. Especially when it is so sudden and tragic. I know how that feels. I will keep you in my prayers.

    Hang in there!

    • The Nourished Caveman says:

      HI Nanci,
      thank you for your support and I am very sorry to hear about your loss. I can not even imagine how losing my brother would be. Sending you a big hug.

  9. Lynne says:


    Like the others, you have my condolences. Like you, I have not had children, and I have only had a few pets in my life. Four years ago I lost my first furchild, who I had from a baby. I don’t know that one recovers, but over time I found the ache became less. Take the time to remember Kiki and the babies in your own way, knowing others are thinking of you.

    • The Nourished Caveman says:

      Thank you for your warm and kind words Lynne.
      I know time will heal and soothe the pain, but the void is so great right now. I try not not think about it, but my days were so full of their presence, I spent so much time with them and talking to them….and now it’s silence.
      The other ducks are also still in shock. They know what happened. They are scared and quiet and do not even want to come out of their pen.

  10. Allison James Gismondi says:

    Vivica I am so sorry for your losses. Our pets are indeed just like our children I too have lost a pet of sixteen years. He was my “first born” and I know how much my heart was broken too. God Bless <3

    • The Nourished Caveman says:

      Thank you Allison. Cookie was my first born, she was my 16 year old cat, and stayed with me for the whole 16! She passed away in my arms peacefully…and that was a great consolation. Was your pet a cat or dog?

  11. Terrell says:

    I am very sorry for your loss. Losing a beloved pet is so very sad and hard to accept. My condolences, Vivica

  12. Monica says:

    I wish you peace at this trying time. I am still grieving over the sudden loss of my beloved Emily. It helps me to remember the day I found her and the 8 yrs of happiness she brought to me, my family and friends. I am so sorry for your loss. I want you to know your heart will mend. This 2nd year is better. Bless you!

    • The Nourished Caveman says:

      Thank you Monica. I know time will help, it has before with other precious pets who passed away. This time is just extra difficult for me, as there is a prt of me that refuses to accept that Kiki is gone…She was too special, too precious….
      I know eventually I will accept it.
      I only had 5 short years with her and it seems like such a short time.

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